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Life can be crazy at times! The entrepreneurship journey can be hard at time! Do not let the journey claim your life. This past weekend, I took a trip to Detroit for a book signing. It was a weekend trip. During the trip, I did a little self-reflecting. If you are to reclaim your life, you need to take the time to ask yourself a few questions. Are you living your life the way you want to live it? Do you think you’re going through your day as your true self? Are you speaking with your authentic voice, or are you holding back out of fear of not being accepted? Stop holding back so you can reclaim your life.
1. Don’t Hold Back!
Many of us struggle with the split between who we are and who we present to the world. We do this in order to fit in. We fear that our loved ones or peers will judge us for the things that we do or the ways that we want to be. So instead of being ourselves, we spend so much energy trying to fit into this mold of what everyone else expects of us. In this article, I will list four ways to reclaim your life. This will help you to approach everyday with the authenticity that you were born with. Do not let Fear win! Trust God through the process!
2. BE PRESENT AND THINK TO THE FUTURE
When you think about the past and the type of person that you used to be, your motivation will instantly disappear. Instead, focus on where you are in your life right now and where you’ll be going next.
Don’t be scared of this thought. Change allows for growth. Accept what once was and move on. You can’t change the past, but you are in control of where you are right now. You’re evolving as a person every single day without realizing it. Think of everything you’ve got to look forward to.
3. INSTEAD OF FOCUSING ON THE GOAL, CONCENTRATE ON HOW YOU'RE GOING TO GET THERE
Too often, we can lose our motivation because we think we’re never going to reach a goal. The truth is, we’re so focused on reaching it that we don’t think about what it’s going to take to get there. A key way to reclaim your life is to focus on the steps you’re going to take to reach your goal. Focusing on how you’re actually going to make that improvement in your life will leave you much more motivated. Each step forward you take, you’ll see that you’re getting ever close towards your end goal.
4. DON'T BE HARD ON YOURSELF
Take your time. Be kind to yourself. Think about what you’re coming home to at the end of your work day. Even if you’re having a really bad time, there’s always something to be grateful for.
Follow @tjinspires Give yourself permission to try and try again. Always believe in yourself. Learning how to believe in yourself will open up endless possibilities in your life. I find living to be a fascinating experience. How we’re all on earth with millions of species, 30,000 different life forms, and over 7 billion people, and everyone is thriving in their own way, existing, co-existing, and co-creating. There’s so much we don’t know out there and so much to be experienced that it’s just wonderful. As you live on earth, remember to love life. It’s the only way we have to live.
For the month of AUGUST we focus on the topic RECLAIM Your Best Life, we will focus on living your best life! Why, because your time here on earth is limited! So enjoy life and live to the fullest! Now, go on out there and LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE.
Love you to the moon + back,
The Entrepreneurship Journey requires Faith! I’d love to tell you that of you stay in Faith, if you believe, God will always answer your prayer within 24 hours. There are some things in life that you cannot fully understand until you experience them, and I would say the Entrepreneurship Journey. I knew it would be difficult, but I underestimated the difficulty and the depth of which the experience would penetrate my whole self and the ripple effect it would have on all aspects of my life.
It’s been a journey of entrepreneurship that God has unexpectedly used to work out my faith in ways I could have never imagined and didn’t even know I needed. In 2014, God called me out of my comfort zone and into a journey of entrepreneurship. In His wisdom and grace, He opened my eyes to a problem, gifted me an idea, and aligned the burden on our hearts to pursue a dream that would somehow glorify Him!
TJInspires, was birthed in 2014. Prayer was the first order of business and we offered up our efforts and whatever the outcome of those efforts to God for His purpose and His glory.
I have known and sought God my entire life, but the roller coaster of extreme highs and extreme lows of entrepreneurship has rocked my faith and I found myself often lost in valleys of uncertainty, fear, doubt and confusion literally crying out to the Lord for help. I was confident that God burdened our heart to pursue this dream, so why was it so difficult for me?
Everyone called by God in the Bible was required to step out in faith and trust fully in the Lord. Consider Noah’s obedience in the face of extreme uncertainty, Abraham’s faithfulness to follow without knowing the way, David’s patience for the fulfillment of God’s promise of kingship, and so many others whose stories demonstrate the faith work that God accomplishes when we say yes to His calling.
“It’s been a journey of entrepreneurship that God has unexpectedly used to work out my faith in ways I could have never imagined and didn’t even know I needed.
Our Lord’s own brother James says:
Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. James 1:2-4
I consider the trials of entrepreneurship pure joy because they are testing my faith and by His grace I am persevering and growing more mature in my faith. I have learned to live in and accept a place of uncertainty and instability because in Jesus I choose to place my certainty and stability.
I have learned to take risks and the Lord is using those risks to teach me what it means to truly trust in His provision.
I have learned to stop striving and believing that through MY efforts alone I can control our success or failure.
I have learned to seek His will, dig well the ditches He is asking me to dig, and trust that He will bring the rain. My journey is not yet complete. Whether God’s plan is that we achieve worldly success or experience worldly failure is still yet to be realized. But, whatever the outcome, I stand firmly in my faith and declare that it is well with my soul – and looking ahead from this new vantage point is worth every valley I’ve crossed along the way.
Choose to keep believing and choose to accept his timing. Do not rush the process! Whether it’s twenty minutes or twenty years, knowing that what God promised He will bring to pass!
Today, I decide to step out! I took myself on a date. I realize this may sound super dorky. You're probably thinking that I must be pretty weird and very lonely. Interestingly enough, I was way lonelier before I started spending time alone. The feeling of being so uncomfortable in my skin and feeling like I needed to be around people all the time to take a deep breath -- that was loneliness.
I just did it. And let go of trying to look "cool." Pulling out a Nike cliché here -- but "Just Do It." That was my approach. It's pretty awkward the first time you go to the movies alone and are sitting there and your bag is in the seat adjacent, and you're pretending to the others in the theater that your boyfriend is just getting refreshments and should be here shortly. Face it, you're just there alone. The awkwardness will pass -- and so will the fear of what other people think of your alone-time. Give up trying to look "cool" to others. Chances are, you'll never see these strangers again and they probably wish they could ditch the chatty Kathy they chose to see the movie with and be where you are.
Make a list of your favorite things. And don't wait for anyone.
I realized I should maybe start spending time alone when I had all these things I wanted to do but never did them because friends were always busy or had other plans. If your favorite band is playing a one-night only concert and none of your friends are free, don't lose the opportunity to do one of your dream activities. We could wait forever for other people to be available, and in the end realize we missed out on thing we love. Plus, making plans for one is a lot fewer back and forth texts (and damned group chats). So take out a piece of paper and make a list of every single thing you love to do but sometimes don't do because you don't have anyone to do it with. That excuse is no longer valid.
Everyone’s talking about self-care. It’s all over social media as #selfcare and it’s popping up on blogs and in workshops. Self-care may be a trend, but it’s one that’s much needed!
What is self-care, anyway?
Self-care is exactly what it sounds like: taking care of oneself. It’s any activity or practice that’s embraced solely for the purpose of one’s well being. Self-care comes in all forms. Exercise, meditating, spending time in nature, oil pulling, or treating oneself to a facial. It’s not one specific practice, but anything done to nourish the body or mind.
Take a self-care trip.
Taking a self-care trip can make a huge difference in your life. Even if you’re not feeling particularly stressed, getting away for a weekend every now and then can help you disconnect, relax, and be rejuvenated. These self-care trips don’t have to be costly; simply drive to the next town over and see the sights, or go camping nearby. The goal is to veer away from your normal schedule and take the time to do something just for yourself.
Take a self-care break by getting outside.
Spending time outside can help you reduce stress, lower your blood pressure, and be more mindful. Studies have even shown that getting outside can help reduce fatigue, making it a great way to overcome symptoms of burnout. Getting outside can also help you sleep better at night, especially if you do some physical activity, like hiking or walking, while you are outside.
In today’s fast-paced world, we tend to turn to our phones for entertainment or comfort, scrolling through news feeds that can contribute to our stress and anxiety rather than helping it. Instead, consider bringing a book with you when you leave the house. Even better, bring books on self-care, so that you can learn more about how to take care of yourself while you are taking care of yourself. You might be amazed at the difference it can make when you slow down instead of always looking at your phone. Not only can it help improve your mood, but it can also help you to stay more present and mindful.